“Let all you do be done in love” 1 Corinthians 16:14
Tyler and Janelle, the words make it sound so simple don’t they? “Let all you do be done in love.” On the surface it really is simple. After all you love each other. Why else would you be here standing together before God and all of these witnesses? But just like your wedding day is only the beginning of your marriage, your love for each other is only the beginning. As we talked about in our pre-marriage talks, love is an action word. It does us no good to say I love you if our very actions demonstrate the opposite! This is why St. Paul’s words to you are so important, “Let all you do be done in love.” For your marriage to be strong, this is the key. As you, “let all you do be done in love” you will notice something amazing happen, that very love upon which your marriage is founded will grow more and more.
But as we also talked about in our meetings, even though you love one another, we know that we don’t always show it. Tyler; Janelle; you both know that there are times when, though you love them, you don’t really like the other person right then. It might be something simple like leaving drawers sticking out or some such things, but our actions, and our responses aren’t always done in love. Perhaps a rough day at work, or a busy day with Kinley, can leave either, or both, of you, unable to truly “let all you do be done in love” and your actions become unkind. Sadly, this is simply the reality of married life. The reality is that despite your love for each other, sometimes your actions simply won’t be done in love. In response to this, St. Paul offers you a little comfort and encouragement in one of the other readings you chose for today: “4Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; 6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never ends.”
Tyler; Janelle; I hope that you hear in these words the very actions which St. Paul by which St. Paul encourages you to “Let all you do be done in love.” For when you don’t feel that the other person is worthy, right then, of your love, St. Paul encourages you to “Let all you do be done in love,” in order that through your actions you may demonstrate that love that he or she really needs! Because love is patient and kind, St. Paul encourages you to active love, even if it means putting up with open drawers. Because love doesn’t envy or boast, and isn’t arrogant or rude St. Paul encourages you to active love, celebrating each other’s successes without boasting of your own. Because love doesn’t insist on its own way, St. Paul encourages you to active love, trying to encourage and support each other in all you do, no matter how simple or mundane it is. Because “love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things,” St. Paul encourages you to explain everything in the kindest way, to not react harshly to each other’s tired and frustrated words but to respond gently and encouragingly, thereby building each other up. Finally because love never ends, St. Paul encourages you to active love, letting all you do be done in love, even if you don’t feel like it because that love is the very foundation of your marriage.
Now, I’ll admit that this sounds like a tall order and can be daunting for any couple. But there is a secret that I know that will help you at all times: “Let all you do be done in the love of Christ.” For it is in Christ that the two of you become one this day. It is in Christ, that each of you will find forgiveness of sins and can forgive one another. It is in Christ, that you can indeed do all things in love. For in Christ’s love, your love is made complete. For Jesus IS patient and kind; He does not envy or boast; He is not arrogant 5 or rude. He does not insist on His own way; He is not irritable or resentful; 6 He does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 7 He has borne all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 His love never ends.” In going to the Cross, Jesus did all things in love, as he bore your sins on the cross that in Him you might be forgiven.
As you build your love, and thus, your marriage on Christ’s love, you can’t but help letting all you do be done in love, for Christ’s love compels you. Yes, you will still have fights or frustrations, but even these things can be done in love for in Christ you will be able to forgive and encourage each other in the bonds of faith.
Tyler; Janelle; You have chosen wisely in your wedding verse. I encourage you to remember it daily, “letting all you do be done in the love of Christ.” Now, “May the God of endurance and encouragement grant you to live in such harmony with one another, in accord with Christ Jesus, 6 that together you may with one voice glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.” Amen.